Pastilan asked on comments of the single parent FAQs not long ago,

If there’s a way to go back in time, would you rather change some things you’ve done in the past?

I think every person has their own regrets at one point in their life.

For me, I admit, finding myself pregnant with my kid is one thing that I wished that never happened. At that time when I missed my monthly period, I was really praying so hard that I am just sick with something. I’m single, and still struggling my way towards earning passing a board exam for my professional license. I just graduated out of college but I still have to pass that exam to get the edge at work.

But tests revealed that I was carrying a life within me. It suddenly occurred to me that I will become a mom in nine months. I was scared at the fact that I will be responsible for taking care of a kid.

Most people of my age during that time are unmarried and are worried on how they will be able to get that first job or pass the board exams or even do both. I had to follow a different plan from the rest: pass the exam, be a mom, then join the workforce after a few months.

It was too early for me to be having a kid, when everyone is worried on taking their first step in their career.

If things happened otherwise, I might be:

• a happily married (and satisfied) woman with kids to take care of.
• a single career woman with a successful career out of my country.

or it could also be the opposite situation of those things that I had written above.

Being a single parent is the reality that I have to accept. I realized that I had to learn face the challenges of this reality one step at a time. I cannot undo being a single parent, but I have to learn how to live this life that I am in.