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Am I Cursed: The Future Without a Lover

June4
cursed future

This is one thought that comes up to me once in a while. I know this is crazy, but I always ask myself if I am indeed cursed: will I be spending the future without someone special?

My kid does not want me to have any boyfriend – she seemed that she wants to have all the attention from me. I tried dating some guys before and my kid doesn’t approve any of them. It’s not like those kids in TV or movies where their single parents dated someone and they get to approve or disapprove them. My kid simply does not want me to date. Period.

Should I wait for my kid to be in her teens to understand that I want to meet someone special? Should I ignore my kid’s wishes and pursue my happiness? Should I give in to my kid’s wishes not to meet someone? Does it make me less of a wonderful parent when I put my own happiness first?

So many people already told me that I would be able to meet someone at the right time. I think those are comfort words people say to anyone who feels alone and lonely. It feeds hope to the person as most people would like, but hoping too much and not getting that want leads to disappointment. I later realized that not everyone would have everything in life – poor people don’t have enough money, and single people like Susan Boyle who weren’t able to meet their man for life.

I should be preparing myself for plan B – that there might not be a right time for having my own special someone I could call, given the situation I am in.

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“Am I Cursed: The Future Without a Lover”

  1. Avatar June 4th, 2009 at 10:59 pm Empty Streets Says:

    Hi Gem,

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