WTF! Ten-Year Renewable Marriage Contract!
Some group of women took this seriously and tried to pass a bill that requires couples to renew their marriage every ten years! Good thing our lawmakers had enough common sense in their mind to immediately trash this bill down.
The women came up with this bill with the hope to make it easier to get out of failed marriages. Only few people could afford to pay for annulment which, I heard, costs near half a million pesos. Good thing I did not not make that foolish decision to rush into getting married just because I was expecting a kid.
What the women might not even consider is the fear that the family relationships and responsibilities may be affected by the change, as Roy questioned:
And does parenthood goes with that contract too? Can you imagine a father telling his son, “Sorry son, my 10-year contract is up. Tomorrow, I will no longer be your father.”
Furthermore, what happens to love? Is having a renewable marriage simply a process of testing whether a life-long relationship could work or not? Is the courtship and dating periods of the relationship insufficient to know each other?
So in Christian renewable marriages, the Book of Common Prayer will now have to be rephrased:
To have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, after 10 years do we part.
I think these people are thinking of the easy way out of a marriage, rather than making relationships work. Although this is most favorable to battered women who still pray and hope that their husbands would change, I think this one is NOT the best solution to this growing problem.
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Nice quote from Roy. Well said. One case of the cure that’s worse than the disease. Why bother with that at all? Instead, it’s saner making annulment available at a reasonable price. What can we do? Some people aren’t just fit for human company, eh? LOL
I agree. Cheaper annulment process, or even streamlined annulment process for the battered women. Better marriage counseling services too.
I agree with marriage counseling first and then cheaper annulment for women who are being victimized by abusive husbands.
Hay, wala na ba silang maisip? Well, we can also understand that indeed there are women who are suffering from a relationship devoid of love; being battered wives and all.
But does not make a valid argument though… cheaper annulment process na lang…mga pari na to, eheheh!
this is absurd but im trying to look at each side of the story. annulment shouldn’t be cheap or else people won’t try to make their marriage work and opt for the easy way out. pero this bill is too much din. it’s like planning for a contingency for your marriage to fail right at the start. actually walang easy and fool-proof solution to avoid bad marriages. pre-marital counseling lang talaga.
Oo nga eh. Doon na lang sa annulment ang focus at di na tinignan how relationships could ever be salvaged or worked out before it is declared to fail.
Pwede naman kayang exception to the rule ang battered wives di ba – cheaper annulment for them may be helpful.
Yun nga lang, marriage counseling is just available to married people. Paano kaya ang mga taong pinili na hindi ikasal at nagsasama lang at inaabuso pa rin?
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how about those who can’t even afford to buy a Jollibee value meal? Siguro for those being abused (wife or the husband) either party can have the option of “quick annulment”, yung ala automatic hiwalay.
I ‘m just wondering. Super mahal nga ang annulment to prevent people for making it as Option A. But the super rich people, the actors and actresses, the Class A people of our society, they all can afford to apply for an annulment.
What about the poor? Is there an option for them?
I think… annulment is something for Class A people, and maybe Class B too. For the Class C (the middle and ordinary people) and the lower classes , just stick with your husband/wife forever (even if abusive), just close your eyes na lang.
I think the 10 year contract is really too much. But the current law on annulment must give some considerations to the middle and poor people. Baka puedeng something like pagdepend sa combined basic monthly salary ng husband and wife times 12 months. Although magiging mas mahal sya for mga mag asawang malaki ang combined salary, it would be an equal opportunity for everyone to apply for an annulment. And still, annulment won’t be an Option A kasi combined basic monthly salary times 12 is a lot of money .
What do you think????
Nice idea – depende sa income no? Issue rin pag malaki ang income isa sa spouses… lugi rin ang may malaking income.
well kung sa ganung computation, lahat pantay pantay. then yung babayaran ng mag-asawa, yung share nilang 2 para makapaglabas ng ganung amount, eh through percentage ren ng kanilang ipon, or bahala sila kung paano nila iipunin yun.
kumbaga, mahirap or mayaman, mahihirapang magbayad dahil sa laki ng babayaran. pero sa ganyang computation, pati mahirap kakayaning magapply for annulment, of course it wouldn’t be Option A kc super mahal sya. Option to the lowest level dapat ang annulment, puera na lang kung may kasama ng pang aabuso.
Gem, puede na ba ako financial analyst? hahaha, pero palpak ako sa accounting and payroll. kamote nga ako sa mga ginagawa kong payroll and accounting system eh, nangangapa ako haha
Sana lang no? Kung di lang mandaya ang mga mayayaman sa income nila. Maraming nakakalusot eh. E di lalabas mura pa rin magpa-annul sa mga nakakalusot. Financial analyst LOL!
yan ngayon ang problem hehehe. dahil di fix ang amount of fee, maaaring mandaya mga mayayaman, unless…
ayaw ko na magsuggest, nakakasakit ng ulo mag isip, maraming paraan hahaha
requirements of income tax return, kung walang income tax, kung mahirap and walang income tax, would require them to file just for the sake na makaapply sila for annulment. and then company letter ren (or own letter if self employed), pirmado na tipong totoo mga amount na nakasaad sa income tax and salary nila, or else liable yung company for not telling the truth.
hmmmmm what do you think? ano ba ito, parang totohanan na ah!
I heard about this just earlier when I was talking with my cousin in California. Honestly, I was really surprised to hear about this. My thought was… is it just like insurance policy? When you forget to renew and you had an accident the insurance company is no longer accountable? Then if the woman got pregnant and she forgot to renew the marriage contract, the husband is no longer the father of the child?
On the other hand, If some women came up with this idea, I believe there is indeed valid and serious reasons. It’s just ridiculous why divorce is not allowed in the Phils when annulment is ok. I believe it is much better than renewable marriage but then, it can also be a money generating machine which will help the country’s economy or some politicians [whichever is applicable].
I can’t really understand how creative Filipinos. You are right counseling is still the best solution but then, how many Filipino couples are open-minded enough to go to counseling?
oppss…. sorry about the errors… I found many. I didn’t have the chance to review my comment for lack of time so I wasn’t able to make the necessary corrections. My Bad!